Life moves around in circles

I know I am writing this blog after a very long time. It seems that I have developed a habit of writing something only when I am sad. I hope by expressing my feelings, things might improve.

I remember 3 years back was one of the most difficult times of my life when I broke up with my ex girl friend and at the same time I was in the middle of the training period of my first job. It was indeed very difficult for me to recoup from that loss. But I recovered in some time and that incident taught me a lot of things about life and people around me. I had completely avoided myself to be involved with someone emotionally after that. I made some very good friends and they also helped me see life with a different perspective. Finally I was OK and probably much more matured after this experience of mine.

Today, after three years, a lot has happened in my life. I gained a lot of experience both professionally and personally, travelled to different places in India and abroad. But I still can't figure out why people change in life. I mean you meet a person as he or she is at that moment of time. You start liking that person because of who he or she is and how he or she behaves. Accordingly, you build some expectations around your relationship with that person. Life becomes normal and on track after that. Then, all of a sudden something happens and you find out that the person has changed and the basic reason of why you were with that person is no longer there. You still have the same kind of expectations with that person but because he or she has changed, those expectations never meet and you end up getting hurt again and again. Then you start asking very basic questions to yourself that why are you with this person in the first place. If you try telling that person that you have changed and the way you are now is not the way you were earlier, I don't think that helps either.

So the basic question is why do people change? Our parents never change. They love us all through our lives in the same manner as they loved you when you were born. Why did God made parents differently than all the others in the world? I see this as a big risk in life. You might like someone as she is today, spend some good time with her and after a couple of years when you get married you realize oh shit, this person has changed and why isn't she behaving the way she used to 2 years back. So what am I trying to say here? What is the solution to this problem? The answer is I dint know and that is what I am trying to figure out.